I need some sleep, it can’t go on like this
I tried counting sheep, but there’s one I always miss
Everyone says I’m getting down too low
Everyone says you just gotta let it go
You just gotta let it go
You just gotta let it go
I need some sleep, time to put the old horse down
I’m in too deep, and the wheels keep spinning ’round
Everyone says I’m getting’ down too low
Everyone says you just gotta let it go
You just gotta let it go
You just gotta let it go
You just gotta let it go
– e
I think it might be time to get to the root of things – what is probably the base of alot of what’s off in me. I haven’t been sleeping well now for about two years.
It’s my own fault. I don’t go to bed when I should, God forbid I not watch a Family Guy episode I’ve seen half a dozen times already. But even after that I read until my book punches me in the eye two or three times because I’ve dozed off and dropped it on my face. Once I put the book down I lay there and listen for anything and everything, suddenly awake enough to pounce at a moment’s notice because of any number of things out to harm me or mine. This little quirk probably stems from the fact that I was allowed to watch things like Amityville Horror, Alien, Psycho and the like when I was but a wee sprout of 6 or 7 – giving me an eye for cinematography that used to bowl my teachers over at a very young age, but also instilling in me the never-to-be-doubted knowledge that at any given time, something, somewhere is probably trying to kill me.
But I nod off eventually, and it’s up again at 6:30 or so. Funny it’s never because of Cooper. At 2 1/2 the boy is a cuddler, and would just assume stay in bed in the mornings. That is, until you say something like ‘peanut butter toast’ and his eyes pop open wide and he leaps from the bed and laughs sliding on his belly all the way down the stairs, then sprinting to the kitchen, stopping only long enough to do an awesome little soft shoe of sorts in front of the TV.
But on the not-so-cute side – I haven’t gotten a night of sleep longer than 6 hours in a long long time. I don’t really dream anymore, nor do I get much deep sleep – this I know because of the lovely feeling most mornings of foggy groggy headaches. Not dreaming can be a bad, bad thing, and not just because of the shit that went down on last week’s Fringe. And also, according to the wife I snore – not Dalmata snore (he’s kept the whole cabin up on camping trips before) but nevertheless…
Alot of this points to sleep apnea, but let me tell you a little about me and sleep apnea…
I’ve been a part of two sleep studies to look into my own apnea. And really, please, stop… The place I went to was very well put together, well staffed, well all of it. My room was like a higher-end hotel room, TV and everything. So I’m relaxing to some Seinfeld when the woman comes in with her cart to hook up the diodes or electrodes or whatever the hell you call them. I remember thinking she seemed sort of grandmotherly for some reason. We start to chit-chat about health and sleep. At the time, I was going thru a healthy cooking thing that involved spinach with almost every meal so I mentioned that.
“Oh yeah,” she says, “I like to…” and she gets this look on her face, sort of surprised and sort of like she forgot something. And right there, mid-sentence, she steps out into the hall… wait for it …and rips out the most otherworldy low-end bass heavy fart I’ve ever heard. Just right outside the door, she didn’t try to get any further than that. It was like she punched a bear in the kidney. She capped it at the end with a little high note like it was asking her a question. Maybe that question was “Hey, are you going to go right back in that dude’s room like nothing just happened?” and her answer was yes because that’s what she did, immediately, wafting her baggage with her.
“…boil it with garlic,” she says, finishing her sentence, to me with my jaw hanging open, and making me forever relate spinach to the memory of her ass’s acoustic show in the hallway, and bears.
SIDE NOTE – Farts are either funny or disgusting. That’s it, there are only two choices. To the individual, that usually comes to mean mine are funny, yours are disgusting. You also, I’m afraid, have only two choices for their inevitable release – you do it out loud and make a show of it, or you go somewhere else and keep it to yourself. Location dictates this. It is NEVER meant to be part of the conversation like you just coughed or sneezed – that is just wrong and you are not allowed to do that. You are either shamed for what you’ve just done, or you give me something to dance to. You either make the joke, or you are the joke, we live in a society here – you do not just let it fly by in front of everyone like it didn’t happen – it’s rude. “Well, really Dan, if we’re going to look at (FARRRRRRRT), ‘scuse me, the issue of musicality in 18th century lepers…” See? Don’t do that. Don’t make someone’s eyebrows go way up and then just continue on, giving him no excuse to bring them back down. No. No. No. Like it or not, farts are funny or fucking disgusting, they are NOT just a part of life.
Anyways, I’m dealing with grandma gas while she starts sticking little diodes (electrodes? I don’t fucking know) to me. 24 of them. Stuck to me with this sticky gel shit that pulls at every little hair on your body – the hair on your wrists, the hair on your ankles, all the places it turns out, that really fucking hurt to have hair plucked out of you. Then she shuts off Seinfeld without asking (rude) and it’s lights out, lie on your back, arms at your side and try to sleep.
I don’t sleep on my back, I sleep on my stomach with my arms under my pillow, and I tend to move around a bit to find the sweet spot. Well, there’s no fucking moving for an apnea test – it tugs at every little hair on your body to move and it also upsets the diodes, and it upsets the testing. So essentially, I didn’t sleep all night. The next morning, according to my results, I have sleep apnea. I’m still not sure how that was the end result but hey, I just wanted out of there before she farted again.
I have to come back a couple nights later for the mask test. Sleep apnea is handled by a mask and air pump that essentially forces air into you so you keep breathing all night long.
Look at that fucking thing!
Well it’s a big fucking mask. And a loud fucking pump. I spent most the night fighting with the mask – it has the power to make your mouth do raspberries that you can’t stop. It’s kind of terrifying. Then the lady got that look on her face again, but nothing happened, or maybe it did, I couldn’t hear over that pump and all I could smell was fake air. And again with the diodes… so no sleep for me. Come the next morning I was told it helped. I don’t recall sleeping though. I was also made aware that my health insurance would pay for me to have as many sleep study sessions as I wanted but they wouldn’t pay a cent for the bloody apnea machine, which runs in the $1500 range. So well, thanks for fart story anyway, lady.
Lack of sleep leads to irritability, headache, forgetfulness, confusion, ironically and sometimes humorously falling asleep at any other time of day, depression, fucking hallucinations, high blood pressure, emotional outbursts, blogging, and yes, overeating. And hell, that’s just the barely scratched surface. And also hell, that’s me in a nutshell.
So yeah, I don’t get to bed when I should, and even when I do it’s not the most restful sleep in the world anyway. But something’s gotta give. I used to be quite a wiz at meditation, but these days it just doesn’t come easy. Lack of focus… hey, that’s from not sleeping too! Awesome!
Maybe it’s just time to come to terms with the fact that the world will keep spinning if I miss a Family Guy episode.
Boy, you’d better fucking hope it does.
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